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7 HABITS TO FIND THAT WORK LIFE BALANCE YOU CRAVE

 

Don’t you hate it when people say how busy they are like they’re the only ones who are busy. Yeah, one of those people. Everyone is busy these days. I have a confession to make….. and I am sorry… here it goes – I have become one of those people. Exclaiming how busy I am when some one asks how I am. I am cringing just thinking about it now. Couldn’t I just say “good thank you, how are you?” – apparently not. Its not that I think everyone wants to know about how busy I am because I am well aware they do not in fact even care… its the fact that I worry so much about being “busy” and not having enough time to do everything and its wearing me down. It is constantly all I think about so I just blurt it out.  Life is crazy and I am trying my hardest to get that work/life balance… well balanced…. and this is what I’ve been doing to try and make sure work doesn’t take over my life and bring back some work life balance.

Device Free Nights – Its sad but true – my husband has started insisting on device free nights. I am the person who needs to be told to put her phone in another room. The Mr is very supportive of my blog and business goals but he wants to spend quality time with me too so it has come to this.  If he didn’t insist on device free nights I would be on the computer blogging or setting up my new business every night – it consumes me. So once a week we have a device free night where we talk or watch TV together… so not totally device free!

Get Outdoors – Our kids love their bikes and going for rides. So whenever we can, we get them out riding. We either ride our bikes as well or we walk with Leo The Pooch. Its a chance to for the whole family to get some fresh air and exercise and spend some quality time together. Its our thing…. find that thing your family enjoys and make it a priority.

Meal Plan – My life is so much easier when I meal plan. I love coming home from work knowing what I am cooking. I am not thinking about it at work or having to duck to the shops after the work with two tired kids. And if you can cook double batches some nights – you are cheering!

Learn to Say No – We all love to please our friends and family and help out when we can. But sometimes you just have to say no…. and you know what? Its ok! The world isn’t going to end if you can’t help your best mate fix a fence or whatever because you need to spend some time with your kids… your Aunty Beryl will be ok if you can’t have afternoon tea this week. Learn to say no and you will find that your not spreading yourself in a million directions.

Perspective – Learn to not sweat the small stuff. Easier said than done, believe me I know. But sometime you have to let things go. My house is clean and tidy, but don’t look to close because its dusty in some spots, the shower needs a good scrub and I know my floors aren’t that clean. But you know what? As long as the house is tidied at the end of the day, I am happy. I’ve had to let it go for my own sanity.

Ditch The Guilt – I know that there are a lot of mums out there who suffer mummy guilt and the struggle is real. But for me, I’ve ditched it. Feeling guilty about going to work so I can provide a better future for my kids isn’t something that I worry about. Feeling guilty because I am not the stay at home mum type – nope! Feeling guilty because I went away for a girls weekend – not here sorry! Guilt only serves to make you feel bad, so shake the guilt off and just enjoy the time you do spend with your kids.

Limit After School Activities – If I’m honest about this one, I’m far too lazy and selfish to be driving my kids around to 436 after school activities each week. Nope, not for me. They are allowed to do one per term as well as swimming lessons. So Mr 5 does soccer (which is about to finish up) and has just started touch footy as well.  Miss 4, well she is the poor second child so she doesn’t actually do anything yet… I really need to get her into a dance class or something. But like I said…too lazy!

There you have it – 7 habits to create some balance in your life. I’ll report back in a couple of months to let you know how I am doing ok?

Tell me what you do to try and find that work/life balance. Are you too lazy and selfish for 436 after school activities as well? Or is that just me?

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30 Comments

  1. Sammie @ The Annoyed Thyroid

    August 24, 2015 at 7:46 am

    I might follow your lead, I’ve been campaigning for a device free night here for ages! These are all great tips. I also like to prioritise exercise – although it’s tricky to find the time to move when there’s so much “busy.” It’s a good time investment, because it gives me more energy, makes me more productive and it sets endorphins free! x
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    1. Fleur - Our Urban Box

      August 26, 2015 at 9:24 pm

      Exercise is so important too Sammie! The only exercise I get at the moment is the bike rides which don’t happen as much as I would like!

  2. michelle

    August 24, 2015 at 9:23 am

    I felt the same as you and after returning to work full time for the first time in 7 years this year I was feeling it let me tell you.

    Hubby and I devised a timetable so we blocked out hours. We knew who was putting the kids to bed, who was studying when etc. This forced me to do the allocated activities in those times and surprise surprise my efficiency went through the roof. I found I needed to just focus on one activity at a time rather than keeping so many tabs open at the same time.

    1. Fleur - Our Urban Box

      August 26, 2015 at 9:23 pm

      My hat goes off to you hun. Working full time would be hard! I struggle with my work load and some of that is from home. Timetable sounds like a great idea, particularly if you both study!

  3. Raychael aka Mystery Case

    August 24, 2015 at 9:31 am

    I’m one of those people too but that really how life is at the moment. Busy. I’m also one of the rare few who doesn’t have a problem with the word busy.
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  4. Kirsty @ My Home Truths

    August 24, 2015 at 1:53 pm

    I love this list Fleur! My husband and I are both bloggers so we need to instigate a device free night methinks. And with my three kids they are limited to one activity each week because there is no way I want to be going to multiple activities each afternoon!
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    1. Fleur - Our Urban Box

      August 26, 2015 at 9:21 pm

      Try the device free nights! We still watch telly so not totally device free x

  5. Jackie From Hippie Mumma

    August 24, 2015 at 5:02 pm

    Meal plannins saved my life. I started doing it just over 2 years ago, when Olivia was a few months old. Without it I’d be a crazy mumma mess every evening I reckon!
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    1. Fleur - Our Urban Box

      August 26, 2015 at 9:21 pm

      I know right? I can’t believe people don’t do it! Although having said that I have been winging it for a few weeks lately and I really need to get back into it.

  6. Mumma McD

    August 24, 2015 at 5:27 pm

    I really needed these tips this week Fleur, thanks! I meal plan and don’t tend to feel much ‘mummy guilt’ but I just don’t have enough hours in the day!
    #TeamMM
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  7. Lauren @ Create Bake Make

    August 24, 2015 at 6:34 pm

    We have device free nights too and I leave my phone downstairs when we head up to put the boys to bed and have quiet time. I also think saying no is sooooo important, but it’s something that I still find very hard to actually do.
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    1. Fleur - Our Urban Box

      August 26, 2015 at 9:20 pm

      Yay for device free nights. Its sad that this is what it as come too, but it is the world we live in I suppose.

  8. Natalie @ our parallel connection

    August 24, 2015 at 7:10 pm

    As my kids are getting older I am struggling more to say no. I use to be so good at it… Need to work on this

    1. Fleur - Our Urban Box

      August 26, 2015 at 9:19 pm

      I’ve started saying no more than I used to and it is a game changer I promise x

  9. Melinda McQueen

    August 24, 2015 at 9:04 pm

    Oh gosh Fleur,
    This message is yelling at me loud and clear. Just when I want to be building my new blog and launching it. I’ve had a week of laying flat on my back because of my back strain, going to the Chiro twice a week. Then the following week there was something wrong with my PC – so I took it in to the local IT guys and apparently the hard drive packed it in, now have to wait another week for a replacement. *Sigh* I was real angry about it before, but now I’ve realised its the universe’s way of giving me a holiday – and really no ones asking me when is this blog happening? It’s my own expectations that are the issue at times……yes device free night oh sounds good… But so hard… I’m a serial reader & researcher 😉
    Loved this post & shared 😉

    1. Fleur - Our Urban Box

      August 26, 2015 at 9:18 pm

      Oh gosh! I know all about back pain hun. I think the universe is definitely telling you something and making you take a break! Can’t wait to see your new blog x

  10. Malinda @mybrownpaperpackages

    August 25, 2015 at 10:01 am

    This is great, I do all of this, or at least try to, except for the device free night. Night is the time I can get stuff done online. Though I suppose I do try to switch off early some nights so that sorts of counts right?
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    1. Fleur - Our Urban Box

      August 26, 2015 at 9:17 pm

      I do all my blog things at night too, except on device free night. You should try it!

  11. Mrs Tubbs

    August 25, 2015 at 9:33 pm

    I so need to do all of these, especially the device free night as it’s so easy to spend all night playing on the iPad or similar. #mummy mondays
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    1. Fleur - Our Urban Box

      August 26, 2015 at 9:17 pm

      Device free nights have been one of the best ideas. Its easy to get sucked into phones and tablets.

  12. Monique@The Urban Mum

    August 26, 2015 at 8:05 pm

    I am with you on all of these, she says still tapping away at her computer – but downing tools in ten minutes, promise….my kids do no after school activities (all sport through school) except Hebrew for forthcoming Bar Mitzvahs and when they are finished there will be no happier person than me – thankfully they can both now swim so ditched those lessons too. Yay …xxx
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    1. Fleur - Our Urban Box

      August 26, 2015 at 9:15 pm

      I close to being able to give up swimming lessons but not quite yet!

  13. Sally@Toddlers on Tour

    August 28, 2015 at 9:51 am

    I find that I need to put aside an hour during the day for “me time” though I prefer to refer to it as ‘my down time’. I am not doing housework, running after kids or even blogging. I am taking a break from life for an hour.
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    1. Fleur - Our Urban Box

      August 30, 2015 at 9:04 pm

      Sounds perfect! I like to read in my down time.

  14. Krissy @ Pretty Wee Things

    August 28, 2015 at 1:13 pm

    I absolutely needed to stumble across your post today! A life balance is one of my biggest struggles. Some days I feel like I’ve got it down pack, and others I’m a crumbling mess. Definitely need to take some of your advice, like saying no and meal planning! xx
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    1. Fleur - Our Urban Box

      August 30, 2015 at 9:03 pm

      I don’t think we can have the balance perfect all the time, but if we manage it more often than not I think we are doing ok. I’ve been a crumbling mess a lot lately too. So much to do and not enough time.

  15. shannon @my2morrows

    September 14, 2015 at 9:45 pm

    I’m one of ‘those’ people too and I hate it! I don’t want to be busy… but its the only way I know these days! Great tips. Not sure we could do a device free night but I’m willing to give it a shot. xx
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