HOW TO BE A HAPPIER PERSON | Our Urban Box Are you happy? Like well and truly happy? Happy deep down to you bones and all the way down to your toes?

I’m happy but I’m not that happy. I have lots of reasons to be happy. I have a roof over my head, food on the table, a loving family and a close group of friends. The Mr and I both have secure jobs, are children are happy and we don’t go without anything (perhaps thats why the house build is not happening Fleur duh!), we live a happy life. The Mr and I are fortunate and we count our lucky stars. But despite all of that, I am not deep down in my bones happy. How do you get that happy feeling? Does it even exist?

Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.

-Dalai Lama

I’ve done a bit of research (i.e. looked around the net) and put together a list of what I can start doing today to make myself a happier person and live a more positive life. 

How to be a happier person:

Eat right and exercise. Sounds really simple but it can be harder to get these two things right than you think. I know I am a happier person when I exercise, its just getting to the gym that is the problem.

Remove negativity from your feed. If your Facebook feed is filling up with negative status’s and articles – then one click is all you need to unfollow or unfriend. Create more positivity in your feed and seek out the good stories. Stop reading the hate.

Practice gratitude. I was joining in with a blogging buddy and doing a post each Sunday about what I was grateful for during the week. I must get back to doing that.

Do something you love. For me its blogging. I love it.

Don’t compare yourself to others. Comparison truly is the thief of joy. Don’t compare your beginnings to someone else’s middle or ending.

♡ Do something nice for others. For me, one of the things I love doing at work is home delivering new glasses to the little old ladies and gents that find it hard to get back into town. They are always so appreciative and love the company for a few short minutes. It makes me feel warm inside doing that. Chase that feeling.

♡ Let it go. Let go of anger. Don’t bottle it up inside. Forgive and forget.

Acceptance. Accept that not every one is going to like you, and that is ok. Accept that some people are still going to be nasty and judgemental for no other reason than because that is who they are. Accept that bad days happen and its ok. Don’t beat yourself up over it.

♡ Declutter. Remove anything from your space that no longer means anything to you. Clutter fills our home and in return clutters up our energy. I really can’t stand clutter. I regularly declutter our house.

I am looking forward to putting some of these ideas into actions over the coming weeks.

Tell me, how happy are you today? Are you deeply happy right down to your bones happy? Or just your regular kind of happy?


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  1. Jess - alittlepartoftheworld

    April 13, 2015 at 5:56 am

    Great tips lovely. I am the regular happy. On and off I am deep to my bones happy. I don’t know if you can be deep to your bones happy all the time? Wouldn’t it be wonderful if you could!! Jx
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    1. Fleur - Our Urban Box

      April 13, 2015 at 10:27 am

      Would be wonderful wouldn’t it, but I agree, I don’t think it is possible. Everyone has bad days right? x
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  2. Emma

    April 13, 2015 at 8:24 am

    Awesome post Fleur! I’m super happy but I’m definitely going to take some time both at work and home this week to de-clutter!

    1. Fleur - Our Urban Box

      April 13, 2015 at 6:25 pm

      Thats great to hear Emma x Decluttering is always a good idea!

  3. Sasha @ From the Left Field

    April 13, 2015 at 10:03 am

    Great post. I can completely resonate with this! I teach people how to be happy every day… yet I can’t say I’m soulfully happy myself. Ironic, much? The Dalai Lama is onto it, we have to take actions to be happy. It’s a bit of work involved. I think we kid ourselves into thinking that true happiness *should* just magically happen, but unless we take steps towards it, it’s not going to appear! x
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    1. Fleur - Our Urban Box

      April 13, 2015 at 6:24 pm

      I don’t think you can be soulfully happy all the time though. As long as your happy, with a bit of soulful happiness thrown in then you are doing ok. I’d love to hear more about how you teach people to be happy Sasha x
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  4. di @ lime&soda

    April 13, 2015 at 10:56 am

    Great tips Fleur. I’d say I’m definitely on the happy side. I’m right in the middle of a massive declutter. I know I will be that much happier when it’s done. 🙂
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    1. Fleur - Our Urban Box

      April 13, 2015 at 6:25 pm

      You will so much happier after your declutter. I decluttered the kids wardrobes the other day and it felt great! x
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  5. Raychael aka Mystery Case

    April 13, 2015 at 11:25 am

    Great post. I tend to think of happiness as a state of mind and try and be more mindful. It’s a work in progress as I’m a fairly negative person to begin with. Moving away from the aspects of my job where I need to point out the negatives is helping.
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    1. Fleur - Our Urban Box

      April 13, 2015 at 6:27 pm

      I would agree with you – it is a state of mind. I can be quite negative too sometimes, its just the way I am I guess. Being more mindful is a great one as well x
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  6. Min@WriteoftheMiddle

    April 13, 2015 at 11:30 am

    Ahhhh happiness – it’s what we all strive for but it takes a while to work out how to obtain it. I still haven’t quite got there but I have moments. Love your list! It’s the kind of stuff I blog about. Funny you mention de-cluttering. I hate clutter too and today I blogged about de-cluttering our minds! 🙂 x
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    1. Fleur - Our Urban Box

      April 13, 2015 at 6:28 pm

      I saw your post Min! I quickly skimmed over it this morning but still have it open in another tab to go back to. Perfect timing!

  7. Nicole @ The Builders Wife

    April 13, 2015 at 11:48 am

    I think we can all do with a bit more happy in our lives! Great tips, thank you xx
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    1. Fleur - Our Urban Box

      April 13, 2015 at 6:30 pm

      Yes we can! I hope you find the tips useful x
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  8. Caz Filmer

    April 13, 2015 at 12:37 pm

    I love that advice – especially the not comparing one. We women are so bad at that.
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    1. Fleur - Our Urban Box

      April 13, 2015 at 6:31 pm

      Absolutely Caz! Comparison is such a negative headspace too. Just keep doing what you love, don’t worry about any one else x
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  9. Erin

    April 13, 2015 at 2:05 pm

    Great list Fleur! I definitely find I am not super happy when I’m not doing the things on that list!

    1. Fleur - Our Urban Box

      April 13, 2015 at 6:31 pm

      Thanks Erin x
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  10. Janet aka Middle Aged Mama

    April 13, 2015 at 5:13 pm

    I don’t really think about it to be honest … I just am a generally happy person I think 🙂 .
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    1. Fleur - Our Urban Box

      April 13, 2015 at 6:32 pm

      And that is awesome Janet! I wouldn’t change that xx
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  11. Natalie @Our Parallel Connection

    April 13, 2015 at 5:13 pm

    I love the acceptance one. It has taken me many years to actually do this and if I am honest, I have only mastered this in the past couple of years. I accept not everyone will be my friend. I accept that I am just as important as others. I accept that there is no wrong way to parent. I accept that people make mistakes and if the friendship is worth it, forgive and move on.
    I am going through an unhappy stage due to work… trying to stay positive. Thanks heaps for linking up with #imustconfess

    1. Fleur - Our Urban Box

      April 13, 2015 at 6:34 pm

      Me too! So many wasted years on pursuing friendships that were one sided. I have finally learnt that it is ok not to liked by everyone. I think it comes with age and self confidence. Sorry to hear about work. It can be hard to go to work when you don’t enjoy it. I hope it all works out for you x
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  12. Emily @ Have A Laugh On Me

    April 13, 2015 at 8:28 pm

    I need to declutter, exercise and eat a little better, actually just exercise would be okay as my eating isn’t that bad. I’m happy, a 7/10 most of the time which is pretty good. Sleep also makes me HAPPY!
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  13. Sammie @ The Annoyed Thyroid

    April 13, 2015 at 8:40 pm

    I love this! I wear my happy pants most of the time, but I do own a pair of cranky pants or two! Have you ever seen the “My Last Days” you tube movie with Zach Sobiech? It’s amazing (and heartbreaking.) He’s a 17 year old with terminal cancer. He says how that happiness and the beauty of life is seeing someone else smile and knowing that you put it there. Kind of sums up what happiness is for me. If you have a few minutes and a box of tissues, check out that movie. It’s a game changer xx
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  14. Alicia

    April 13, 2015 at 10:56 pm

    I have always said live your life for your own happiness, not what others want you to do. I have to agree that doing good things for others, brings happiness to you. It always makes me feel better.
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  15. peregrinationgourmande

    April 14, 2015 at 1:04 am

    I love your post Fleur. It s just perfectly summed up. I have to work on the let it go part. And the less is more part is on the way. Thanks. Xx cathy
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  16. Vicki @ Boiled Eggs & Soldiers

    April 14, 2015 at 8:09 am

    Love this post Fleur. I’m generally fairly happy except when I let things fester. Am so with you on the decluttering – declutter your space and your mind declutters. I like your grateful posts too. x
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  17. Zita

    April 14, 2015 at 11:40 am

    Great tips! I particularly like the one about removing negativity from the Newsfeed! I think this a lot as I scroll through FB! Time to start removing 🙂
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  18. Ingrid @ Fabulous and Fun Life

    April 14, 2015 at 3:43 pm

    Great happiness tips! I’m generally a happy person. I subscribe to Dr Tim Sharp’s Happiness Institute newsletters every Monday morning which has loads of great information about happiness attached.
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  19. Fluffy

    April 14, 2015 at 10:01 pm

    All words to live by – I truly believe we all know when we are out of sync with our happy and what we need to do to reclaim it. Of late, I have taken to standing in a super-hero pose and waiting until the ‘feeling’ comes over me that I am unstoppable. Everything else follows – even if I do look a little silly standing on the streets of Sydney doing that 😉
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  20. Anne@GritandGiggles

    April 15, 2015 at 8:13 am

    Some good tips there and so true. I know I feel happiest when I do those things. I need to get back into exercise and we could do with a declutter around here. I like the idea of a grateful post. Good luck getting to your happiest self.
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  21. Krissy @ Pretty Wee Things

    April 16, 2015 at 1:27 pm

    Wouldn’t the world be a beautiful place if everyone practiced each of these tips! I love gratitude, I think it is the most beautiful and kind way to appreciate yourself and others. I will pin this post and use it as a reminder. xxx
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  22. Kristy @ Loulou Zoo

    April 17, 2015 at 12:42 pm

    Some great tips Fleur! I definitely feel as though decluttering has helped my happiness levels…and practising gratitude. That one is a big one – I need to keep working on it, it’s so easy to slip back into “old habits”. x
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